What gives me growth?
Suffering.
There is little in my life that has caused me to grow more than suffering. Learning to accept what comes, and learning what can and cannot be controlled.
Life is filled with conflicts, disagreements, and life experiences that we cannot make go our way. It is part of being human.
We are not programmed robots which will figure out by some sort of logical progression what makes sense and what does not. Sometimes life itself does not make sense.
But were it not for those things which cause the friction in our lives, we would never find a way to accept what we can change, and change our perspectives about those things we cannot change.
Personal growth comes through those experiences. And I, for one, would never trade any of them for an easier life. Were it not for them, I would not be where I am today.