It’s hard to grow when you don’t know what is holding you back. And it is necessary to find out or you will never know what direction to take to resolve internal issues. So you need to ask. But who do you ask? The experts online? A shrink? Your pastor? And can they narrow that down enough to point you in the right direction?
Sometimes. Sometimes not.
One thing I have discovered is that if you ask God for something that will enable spiritual growth, He will always give an answer. But if you ask, it will come in ways you least expect. So be prepared.
I’ve been asking for revelation about imperfections that remain within me. And, true to form, God answered. The scene was ugly and it hurt. But the answer was what I needed to move forward.
And now there is a clear direction regarding unresolved issues that I was not aware of. Now that I am, I can do something about it.
Now I have four clear-cut goals that I can achieve. For the first time in my life. And I know I can reach them because I now know why I want to reach them.
Taking the information…
Having that clarity enables a person to find out the direction. Sometimes, reading or watching gurus on the internet will give some ideas, but they cannot give clear direction. That must be done from inside each of us.
Moreover, even if you found the direction, the examples given may not cover what you are going through.
Hence the fact that self-discovery is a journey.
But without the right idea of how to get where you need to go, you’ll never hit your target.
Because you don’t have any.
Micro steps…
There is a growing understanding of something called, “Micro Habits”. It was first introduced in the concept of goal setting, most famously with the Franklin Covey training. Establish the goal, then break it down into manageable chunks. Each on becomes a target for completion.
When all are done, the goal is reached.
Today, it has been realized that those chunks needs to be made into something even more manageable. These are called, “Tiny Habits”.
When you gain a habit, you do so in tiny steps. Once a habit, like brushing your teeth or brushing your hair, is established, you can bounce off of it to add a bigger habit.
For example, if you want to remember to read a big book, then break it down into simple chunks. Read a chapter or a set number of pages after pouring yourself a cup of coffee. You have the first habit already established. Just add the second one in tiny pieces to the first so you don’t forget!
If you want to grow…
First, establish the target goal. Where do you want to go in your life? What are the road blocks that you need to overcome to get there?
Start with what is holding you back. It is usually rooted in some fear. Find the opposite virtue you need to get as a habit to replace that negative one.
Then work on removing it from your life, one tiny habit at a time.
Don’t focus on blaming your past. You are responsible for your future. It’s up to you.
Watch TedX, Ted Talks, or a YouTube clogger who inspires you to reach your target that works best for you. I recommend this lady as a great example of someone who took the ideas of others and refined them to work for herself.
Never stop dreaming. Figure out what has been hidden in your heart and is your secret talent.
Look for some inspirational ideas to discover what is stopping you from reaching your dream.
We all have them. We have just forgotten them because we were told we couldn’t do them. Or circumstances told us we weren’t good at something. Or we just got stuck somewhere along the way in a job we don’t like to pay debts we never should have gotten into in the first place.
But don’t just think about it.
Do something about it.
Set it as your goal.
Then set about reaching that goal in small steps.
Before you know it, you will have reached your goal.
Make it your daily habit to continue your journey forward.
The choice is yours.
And you have only one life, so don’t waste it wishing you could do something that you’ve always wanted to do.